Sexual difficulties are very common. Research suggests that more than half of us will experience a problem at some point.
Talking About Sex
Talking honestly about your sex life with your partner can be almost impossible. Yet your sexual wants and needs can change a lot throughout your lifetime. And they can change a lot throughout one relationship. Some of these changes might improve your sex life, but others may make it feel worse. When these changes occur, many men and women tend to take the wrong course of action, shutting up or shutting down. You might lose interest in sex with your partner altogether, or turn against yourself and your body. When people face these challenges, what they’ll often find is that talking about sex, while it may feel uncomfortable at first, can be the key to maintaining a healthy sex life and a positive relationship.
Intimate relationships don’t have to lose their excitement. Closeness, self-esteem and open communication are essential to lasting, healthy sexuality. They are also the biggest factors in sexual satisfaction.
While it may feel awkward or unnatural to talk about sex at first, very often, when you do open up, there are major, surprising shifts in a your sexual relationship. Too often, people let years pass without having a conversation about their sexuality. We know that relationships in today’s society can be complex, so whatever your gender or sexuality, whether you’re single, in a relationship or married, you can benefit from a healthy loving sex life.
Here at the Change Project we have qualified and experienced Sex Therapists who can support you and your partner to rediscover and improve your sex life.
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Our sex therapy service is highly successful, with 93% of both men and women reporting a significant improvement in their sex life.
Sex Therapy can help with the following:
- Loss of, or lack of sexual enjoyment
- Difficulties with sex because of earlier sexual abuse
- Different expectations about sex between you and your partner
- Worries about porn or sex addiction
- Difficulty in achieving or maintaining erection (erectile dysfunction)
- Ejaculatory difficulties (Retarded Ejaculation, Rapid Ejaculation and Delayed Ejaculation)
- Pain during intercourse (Dyspareunia, Vaginismus)
- Difficulties reaching orgasm (Anorgasmia)
This isn’t an exhaustive list, everyone is unique and so are our sex lives. Whatever the issue our sex therapists are here to help.
Will we have to do any sexual tasks in front of the counsellor?
No, your therapist will give you specific exercises to try in the privacy of your own home. You can take them at your own pace and you will never be forced to do something that you do not feel comfortable with.
I don't want my friends or family to find out, is it confidential?
Yes, Change counselling is completely confidential. We will not give your name or any information about you to anyone outside Change unless someone’s personal safety is at risk.
I am single at the moment but I know I have a sexual problem, can you still help me?
Yes, we work with many individuals who are experiencing sexual difficulties. We can help you work on your problem so you can enter into future relationships with confidence.
I’m in a same sex relationship. Can we still attend?
Yes, you can still come along.
What training do Change sex therapists have?
All Change sex therapists are qualified in couple counselling having undertaken training for two to three years, and then undertaking further training to specialise in sex therapy, or some of our therapists qualify because they are trained in sex therapy as part of their Relationship Counselling degree course. They are all either trained, or in training, to gain a qualification recognised by the College of Relationship and Sex Therapists (CORST).
'The sessions have been very constructive. Have always felt listened to and understood. I am so grateful to Jean for all her help and understanding and helping me find my way forward. Thank you'
– Individual counselling client
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– Couple counselling client
‘Really appreciate the professionalism of the counsellor and her questioning to get my wife and I to see each others perspectives. Brilliant as we are back on track. Thank you”
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